بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
In the Name of Allah The most Gracious The Most Merciful
This is a reminder to the brothers that with more privileges comes more responsibility. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala has said in the Glorious Qur`an:
And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise. (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:228)
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means.(Surah An-Nisa 4:34).
It is not befitting to always use these ayat on the women in your life and then you do not fulfill the conditions that you are responsible with regards to your womenfolk. These have been some of the most misused ayat with regards to their meaning. Men use these ayat in attempt to show their superiority over their women thinking that he is allowed to do whatever he desires and cannot be questioned about it because he is the man.
Do not take the words of Allah lightly O son of Adam because in these ayat Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) not only tells man his rights but He is also showing that man has a great responsibility towards the women in his life. Do not take your womenfolk’s rights away from them be it your mother, sister or wife, as Ibn mas’ud (Radhi–Allahu ‘anhu) said: A man and a woman will be taken by the hand on the Day of Resurrection and a voice will call out before the first and the last, saying: ‘This is So and so the son of So and so. Whoever has any dues from this man let him come and take his dues,’ and the woman will rejoice if she had any (unfulfilled) right over her father, or over her son, or over her brother, or over her husband.” Then Ibn Mas’ud recited the verse (interpretation of the meaning): “there will be no kinship among them that Day, nor will they ask of one another”(al-Mu’minoon 23:101). Allah will forgive whomsoever He will with regard to His own rights, but He will not forgive with regard to the rights of other people. Narrated by al–Tabari in his Tafseer, 5/90.